To achieve anything worthwhile takes work. Why should marriage be any different?
Years of your life are spent in school preparing to obtain the job you want or the career you want to pursue. If you wanted to excel in sports, art or singing, you were willing to work at it and spend endless hours practicing. It wasn’t work - it was a joy.
Whatever your dream, nothing would stop you
from tirelessly working to achieve your goal even if it meant foregoing certain
pleasures and taking extra classes. You
studied and read every book you could find to help you get better and
eventually become the person you wanted to be.
Marriage should be approached with as much
zeal. Unfortunately, most people who try
their hand at marriage think it’s a learn as you go project. They “wing it” on a day-to-day basis and fail
to see the mistakes made along the way until it ends in separation or
divorce. It’s no secret that more than
half of all marriages end in divorce and many others are miserably unhappy.
Marriage is not taken seriously anymore or
at least not for long. As soon as the
passion and dedication of the wedding vows fade into the bliss of the
honeymoon, couples say well if it doesn’t work out it’s no big deal to go our
separate ways.
If children are involved this is certainly
not so, but divorce can also have more far reaching effects on others as
well. This includes not only your
immediate family but friends as well on both sides of the marriage.
With marriage comes responsibility. Couples would do well to repeat their wedding
vows occasionally, especially the part that says for better or worse. So often when a marriage gets tough with a
loss of job, poor health or unexpected expenses, the stress begins to build and
you look for a way out. Marriage has
become too much about what you can do for me, rather than what we can do for
each other.
Divorces are too easy to come by. More work should have gone into the
engagement period which most times are all too brief. The longer the engagement the more you can
learn about your partner.
If there are little things (or big things)
that annoy you it’s better to discover them before the vows are said. Going into marriage thinking you can change
someone most of the time is a fairy tale.
Just like you prepare for a career, you
should prepare for marriage. Premarital
counseling could be extremely beneficial.
It not only brings couples closer but enables them to discover what the
other person is seeking or expects in a relationship. In a counseling situation most feel more
comfortable sharing their feelings with a professional present.
Enter into the sanctity of marriage knowing
that it’s a lifetime commitment.
Together you can accomplish so much more than alone. It will take work and self sacrifice. The marriage highway is filled with bumps and
potholes but it’s a trip worth taking and may be the best journey of your life.
cheers,
Bob
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