It’s never too late to have a better marriage today. In this time of fast food, instant communications, five minute marriage ceremonies and quickie divorces it’s no wonder people expect and even demand that someone should make their marriage better today.
No matter that the marriage has been on a
downhill slide for months or years and no matter that you haven’t spoken to
each other in days, you’re finally seeking help for your marriage and you want
results today.
That’s almost like praying to God for
patience and you want it now. Most
marriages experience trouble over a period of time, little things become big
things and suddenly you realize your marriage is on the rocks and that’s not
where you wanted it to be.
Most couples who get married say they
entered into the union forever. They
also realize that marriage is a partnership and you have to work at it to make
it successful. Most also agree that
divorce is not the ultimate answer.
This is evident by the fact that the
divorce rate is down somewhat even though many are continuing to stay with
their spouse even though they’re unhappy and unsatisfied. More couples seem to be happy than not with
three out of four saying they would marry their spouse again. And, many have by renewing their vows or
really marrying them again after divorce.
It’s more common than you might think.
Love is perhaps the key to making your
marriage better today and forever even though some husbands and wives declare
their love has faded and they’re bored in the relationship. This is not always the case. More than half say they love their spouse
more now than when first married and that it grows everyday.
Lifelong enduring love just happens for a
chosen few but for the rest of us we have to work at it daily. Just like we can’t take our spouse for
granted, likewise we cannot take each other’s love for granted. It must be earned. This is especially true in the early years of
marriage after the physical attraction has waned but is also necessary for all
marriages for all time.
Demonstrate your love each day for your
spouse. This can be done with good deeds
as you anticipate your spouse’s needs.
But, true marriage saving love must go deeper and be sincere and
unfaltering.
A love that’s forgiving is perhaps the most
important. Few marriages can boast of
never needing to forgive one another and each time you experience a forgiving
love the more your bond is strengthened.
When couples were asked to list the most
important traits in marriage, one of the most mentioned was forgiveness
followed by trust and the ability to resolve differences in a peaceful, loving
manner.
Other traits listed were compatibility and
spending quality time together. Love may not be a panacea for saving your marriage
today but when combined with dedication, it’s certainly a good start.
cheers,
Bobby
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