Allow
space for awhile.
After you’ve agreed to stay together and
work out your problems, it may be best if you give each other some space until
you can think things out and then come together more rational rather than
emotional. One of you may want to sit down and talk right away. Don’t. Opt for
some space and time until you can approach the relationship problems calmly.
Agree
that you’ll disagree.
A disagreement of sorts is threatening your
relationship, so it’s imperative that when you do discuss problems, you both
agree to hear what the other has to say before you express disagreement. You
may never come together on a point of view, but at the very least you can
respect the other’s opinion.
Identify
the problem.
The blowup that made you both want to run
away may not be the root problem. Perhaps you’ve been silently seething about
something that the other is oblivious to. The problems may be imagined or real,
but you both have to acknowledge it before you can work it out.
Be
patient.
One conversation or meeting may not put
your relationship back on track immediately. You may never reach a complete
understanding. Be patient with the process and keep in mind what you want the
result to be. If you’re making the effort to patch things up, patience and time
are on your side.
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