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25 December 2007
Why English Is Hard to Learn...
Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at an Elingsh uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoetnt tihng is taht frist and lsat ltteer is at the rghit pclae.
The rset can be a toatl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit porbelm.
Tihs is bcuseae we do not raed ervey lteter by itslef but the wrod as a wlohe.
cheers,
Bobbywan
The rset can be a toatl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit porbelm.
Tihs is bcuseae we do not raed ervey lteter by itslef but the wrod as a wlohe.
cheers,
Bobbywan
16 December 2007
Programmable Minds
Humans are not computers & humans are not machines.But, the human mind is very similar to a computer.It stores memories and receives incoming data.
When you understand the programming of the human mind,
you will be able to have complete control of your thoughts and emotions.
First, you must understand the different forms of incoming data.
· All images that enter your eyes are incoming data.
· All sounds that enter your ears are incoming data.
· Anything you can feel that touches your skin is incoming data.
Next, you must see yourself as the self-programmer of your programmable mind.
· You program yourself to brush your teeth every morning.
· You program yourself to take a shower every morning.
· You program yourself to feel happy or sad.
· You program yourself everytime you make a choice.
You see somebody that looks sad and you think that person is sad.Your mind is a data base of memories and image programs.Every picture that you look at is an image program to give you a certain feeling.
Examples of Image Programs:
Bobby Wan
When you understand the programming of the human mind,
you will be able to have complete control of your thoughts and emotions.
First, you must understand the different forms of incoming data.
· All images that enter your eyes are incoming data.
· All sounds that enter your ears are incoming data.
· Anything you can feel that touches your skin is incoming data.
Next, you must see yourself as the self-programmer of your programmable mind.
· You program yourself to brush your teeth every morning.
· You program yourself to take a shower every morning.
· You program yourself to feel happy or sad.
· You program yourself everytime you make a choice.
You see somebody that looks sad and you think that person is sad.Your mind is a data base of memories and image programs.Every picture that you look at is an image program to give you a certain feeling.
Examples of Image Programs:
- Beautiful Pictures
- Funny Pictures
- Sad Pictures
- Scary Pictures
Bobby Wan
04 December 2007
Perspective
Is the cup Or is the cup
half empty? half full?
It is amazing how our perception can be changed by our attitude.
For example, think about God and then look at these letters.
N-O-W-H-E-R-E
You can assume that God is NO WHERE.
Or you can believe that
God is NOW HERE!
Follow this advice and you can improve your life:
Always remember that you are loved,
even when it doesn't seem like it.
Believe in yourself and your values.
Don't sell out when things go wrong.
Don't let anything get you down;
always bounce back up.
Set goals for your future
and never settle for anything less.
Realize that there are others in the world
with much bigger problems than you.
Appreciate the good things in your life,
and be thankful for the time you have with your loved ones.
Spend more time with your family and friends.
Appreciate the simple things in life,
and don't get caught up in material things.
If you follow that advice you can't go wrong!
So the next time you're looking at a situation in your life:
Is the cup Or is the cup
half empty? half full?
Be an optimist and see the cup as being half full.
Before long, your attitude will rub off on others.
You can make the world a better place
by simply making yourself a happier person.
If you see someone without a smile,
give them one of yours:)
Bobby Wan
24 November 2007
I'm Just Glad Wrinkles Don't Hurt!
Two men fell on hard times. Try as they might, they couldn't find work.
They heard that a museum was willing to pay $50 apiece for live rattlesnakes so, in desperation, they decided to catch snakes.
Outfitted with a net and basket, they hiked to a remote area renowned for its large snake population. But as they scaled a steep ledge, the rock gave way and they tumbled down the slippery bank -- into a deep pit crawling with rattlesnakes!
One of the men quickly sized up the situation and shouted excitedly to his friend, "Look! We're rich! We're RICH!"
Some people see good in anything! And I suppose there's usually a brighter side. Take aging, for instance. When we grow older, our skin turns from satin to cotton to seersucker to corduroy. But, on a brighter side, I'm just glad wrinkles don't hurt!
It has to do with how we look at our situation. Like a sign spotted outside a New England shop: "We buy junk. Antiques for sale."
Is your attic full of junk or antiques? It may sound a bit naive, but if my guess is right, we're going to have plenty of problems anyway.
They heard that a museum was willing to pay $50 apiece for live rattlesnakes so, in desperation, they decided to catch snakes.
Outfitted with a net and basket, they hiked to a remote area renowned for its large snake population. But as they scaled a steep ledge, the rock gave way and they tumbled down the slippery bank -- into a deep pit crawling with rattlesnakes!
One of the men quickly sized up the situation and shouted excitedly to his friend, "Look! We're rich! We're RICH!"
Some people see good in anything! And I suppose there's usually a brighter side. Take aging, for instance. When we grow older, our skin turns from satin to cotton to seersucker to corduroy. But, on a brighter side, I'm just glad wrinkles don't hurt!
It has to do with how we look at our situation. Like a sign spotted outside a New England shop: "We buy junk. Antiques for sale."
Is your attic full of junk or antiques? It may sound a bit naive, but if my guess is right, we're going to have plenty of problems anyway.
Why not think more about whatever is good and just be glad wrinkles don't hurt?
cheers,
BobbyWan
BobbyWan
17 November 2007
Enough failure
Failing at anything can be a difficult experience. It can be embarrassing, discouraging, and expensive. It can steal your time and energy, leaving you with nothing to show for the effort except disappointment.
Yet as bad as failure is, there is something much worse -- the absence of failure. If there is no failure, it's because there has been no attempt. The only way to completely avoid failure is to avoid making any kind of effort.
Success comes not from the avoidance of failure. Most of the time, success is achieved only when there has been enough failure. Failure, as difficult and painful as it may be, is an essential building block for accomplishment. To find one strategy that works, you must be willing to go through several strategies that don't work.
Failure is a magnificent teacher, and one which is unavoidable in any serious attempt. Undertake something ambitious, and you will most certainly have some failures. Only when you've had enough of them, will you truly succeed.
Don't let the fear of failure stop you. Plan for it, deal with it, minimize its negative impact, and march on through it. Success is just one more attempt away from failure.
cheers,
BobbyWan
Yet as bad as failure is, there is something much worse -- the absence of failure. If there is no failure, it's because there has been no attempt. The only way to completely avoid failure is to avoid making any kind of effort.
Success comes not from the avoidance of failure. Most of the time, success is achieved only when there has been enough failure. Failure, as difficult and painful as it may be, is an essential building block for accomplishment. To find one strategy that works, you must be willing to go through several strategies that don't work.
Failure is a magnificent teacher, and one which is unavoidable in any serious attempt. Undertake something ambitious, and you will most certainly have some failures. Only when you've had enough of them, will you truly succeed.
Don't let the fear of failure stop you. Plan for it, deal with it, minimize its negative impact, and march on through it. Success is just one more attempt away from failure.
cheers,
BobbyWan
08 November 2007
5 Strategies to Guarantee Your Business Success!
Life is a game. You need to know the name of the game. Be a player NOT spectator. If you don't have a plan, you will fit into somebody's plan! Follow these 5 simple steps to achieve success in your business. Will You allow me to help You?
A. A Positive Attitude
Your attitude can make or break you. How can you stay "up" when there are so many things that can bring you "down"? Your next move is your choice - positive or negative.
What can I do that will be to my best advantage?
Definition of Success: The continuous journey toward achievement of pre-determined , worthwhile goals.
B. What are the characteristics and work habits that separate the average from the high income earners?
1. They radiate confidence and strength in their walk, talk and overall presence.
2. They balance ego with warm and sincere empathy for the people they serve.
3. They reach within themselves for the strengh to overcome obstacles and pain to succeed.
4. They do what they plan to do in writing daily.
5. They keep themselves in a positive shell and avoid jealously, gossip , anger or negative thinking.
6. They love people and use money instead of using people and loving money.
7. They strive to keep their lives in balance, and know they must strive for success in all areas.
8. They invest monthly in the greatest investment on earth, their minds!
9. They are highly goal oriented. There are five elements in achieving any goal.
a. Find a goal
b. Write it down
c. Attach a date
d. Tell 3 people who hold you accountable
e. Attach a condition
C. ExtraOrdinary Work Ethics
1. Starting focused in the day.
2. Following through on help requests for your people.
3. Thinking of new ways to help market products or services.
4. Continuing to give your best efforts throughout the day.
5. Adopting the work philosophy of “I must always do the extra things that ordinary people refuse to do”.
D. 360 degree Product /Service Knowledge
a. Know and understand everything about your products and services. Know everything about your competition products and services. Applied knowledge is Power!
E. Excellent Networking skillsBasic networking skills+ consultative skills= A long term successful business relationship
Have excellent basic skills is the beginning for achieving consultative or relational selling success.
You can’t have one without the other. The biggest single obstacle for most people in business will be that of:
F - False
E - Expectations
A - Appearing
R - Real
The professional Creed
I am not judged by the number of times I fail,but by the number of times I succeed.And the number of times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I can fail and keep trying.
all the best,
Bobby Wan
A. A Positive Attitude
Your attitude can make or break you. How can you stay "up" when there are so many things that can bring you "down"? Your next move is your choice - positive or negative.
What can I do that will be to my best advantage?
Definition of Success: The continuous journey toward achievement of pre-determined , worthwhile goals.
B. What are the characteristics and work habits that separate the average from the high income earners?
1. They radiate confidence and strength in their walk, talk and overall presence.
2. They balance ego with warm and sincere empathy for the people they serve.
3. They reach within themselves for the strengh to overcome obstacles and pain to succeed.
4. They do what they plan to do in writing daily.
5. They keep themselves in a positive shell and avoid jealously, gossip , anger or negative thinking.
6. They love people and use money instead of using people and loving money.
7. They strive to keep their lives in balance, and know they must strive for success in all areas.
8. They invest monthly in the greatest investment on earth, their minds!
9. They are highly goal oriented. There are five elements in achieving any goal.
a. Find a goal
b. Write it down
c. Attach a date
d. Tell 3 people who hold you accountable
e. Attach a condition
C. ExtraOrdinary Work Ethics
1. Starting focused in the day.
2. Following through on help requests for your people.
3. Thinking of new ways to help market products or services.
4. Continuing to give your best efforts throughout the day.
5. Adopting the work philosophy of “I must always do the extra things that ordinary people refuse to do”.
D. 360 degree Product /Service Knowledge
a. Know and understand everything about your products and services. Know everything about your competition products and services. Applied knowledge is Power!
E. Excellent Networking skillsBasic networking skills+ consultative skills= A long term successful business relationship
Have excellent basic skills is the beginning for achieving consultative or relational selling success.
You can’t have one without the other. The biggest single obstacle for most people in business will be that of:
F - False
E - Expectations
A - Appearing
R - Real
The professional Creed
I am not judged by the number of times I fail,but by the number of times I succeed.And the number of times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I can fail and keep trying.
all the best,
Bobby Wan
02 November 2007
Getting a Busy Signal
Two natural gas company service personnel, a senior training supervisor
and a young trainee, were out checking meters in a suburban
neighborhood. They parked their truck at the end of an alley and worked
their way to the other end.
At the last house, a woman looking out her kitchen window watched the
two men as they checked her gas meter. When they finished, the senior
supervisor, proud of his physical condition, challenged his younger
co-worker to a foot race back to their truck.
As they approached the truck, they realized that the woman from the
last house they checked was huffing and puffing right behind them. They
stopped and asked her what was wrong.
Gasping for breath, she replied, "When I saw two gas men running as
hard as you two were, I figured I'd better run, too!"
In another way, we spend a great deal of time running, don't we? We are
running to catch up at work. We are running to keep up at home. We
speak of "running" errands. We "rush" off, we drive in the "fast" lane,
we stop at the "Quick" mart, we buy "fast" food, we use the "express"
lane, and we "hurry" back so we can "race" through our meal. Too often
our lives are lived in fast forward. No wonder we "run down"!
One tele-communications company executive went to see his doctor. She
listened to her patient's heart, shook her head and said, "All I get is
a busy signal."
Living fast does not usually mean we will have more free time. Rather,
it often means we feel we have too much to do! An important part of
reducing harmful stress is to simply slow down. Take a walk. Spend some time alone.
Be still. Listen to your soul.
Surprisingly, you may find you have MORE energy left for the important
work.
In time, you may wonder why you ever rushed at all!
and a young trainee, were out checking meters in a suburban
neighborhood. They parked their truck at the end of an alley and worked
their way to the other end.
At the last house, a woman looking out her kitchen window watched the
two men as they checked her gas meter. When they finished, the senior
supervisor, proud of his physical condition, challenged his younger
co-worker to a foot race back to their truck.
As they approached the truck, they realized that the woman from the
last house they checked was huffing and puffing right behind them. They
stopped and asked her what was wrong.
Gasping for breath, she replied, "When I saw two gas men running as
hard as you two were, I figured I'd better run, too!"
In another way, we spend a great deal of time running, don't we? We are
running to catch up at work. We are running to keep up at home. We
speak of "running" errands. We "rush" off, we drive in the "fast" lane,
we stop at the "Quick" mart, we buy "fast" food, we use the "express"
lane, and we "hurry" back so we can "race" through our meal. Too often
our lives are lived in fast forward. No wonder we "run down"!
One tele-communications company executive went to see his doctor. She
listened to her patient's heart, shook her head and said, "All I get is
a busy signal."
Living fast does not usually mean we will have more free time. Rather,
it often means we feel we have too much to do! An important part of
reducing harmful stress is to simply slow down. Take a walk. Spend some time alone.
Be still. Listen to your soul.
Surprisingly, you may find you have MORE energy left for the important
work.
In time, you may wonder why you ever rushed at all!
28 October 2007
Heart Warmers
1. When you are born, all the people around you are smiling and you are crying, live your life in such a way such that when you die, all the people around you are crying and you are smiling.
2.Dream what you want to dream and do what you want to do, becos you have only one life to live and don't ever live to regret.
3. The person who goes on well in life lives on a forgotten past and an optimistic vision about the future.
4.The best kind of friend is those type that both of you can sit down , say nothing, but after you leave, you feel like you have juz finished the best conversation ever.
5.Be gentle to yourself when you find that your love is not reciprocated...there is nothing you should do and there is nothing you can do...juz be contented that love comes and knocks on your door before.
6. When one door of happiness closes, open your heart and don't dwell on the closed door..........as usually, another door of happiness will be opened for you.
cheers,BobbyWan
2.Dream what you want to dream and do what you want to do, becos you have only one life to live and don't ever live to regret.
3. The person who goes on well in life lives on a forgotten past and an optimistic vision about the future.
4.The best kind of friend is those type that both of you can sit down , say nothing, but after you leave, you feel like you have juz finished the best conversation ever.
5.Be gentle to yourself when you find that your love is not reciprocated...there is nothing you should do and there is nothing you can do...juz be contented that love comes and knocks on your door before.
6. When one door of happiness closes, open your heart and don't dwell on the closed door..........as usually, another door of happiness will be opened for you.
cheers,BobbyWan
23 October 2007
A Candle
There was this man who was walking along the beach at low tide when he came to a spot where there were thousands of starfish left on the sand by the receding waves. He was saddened that all of them would die under the noonday sun.
A short distance ahead of him he saw a man wearing a red hat picking up a star fish and throwing it into the water. Every few yards, this man with the red hat stopped, picked up another star fish and threw it into the water.
Finally, the first man hurried up to the one with the red hat and asked, "What are you doing?"
"Oh, I am saving the star fish."
"That's silly," replied the first man, "There are so many of them that it really doesn't matter."
With that, the man with the red hat stooped down, picked up another star fish, threw it in the water and said, "To that one it matters."
That story reinforces the words of Dr. Thomas Anthony Dooley, which he so beautifully expressed in his book, *The Night They Burned the Mountain*. Dr. Dooley said, "It's better to light one candle than to curse the darkness."
cheers,
BobbyWan
A short distance ahead of him he saw a man wearing a red hat picking up a star fish and throwing it into the water. Every few yards, this man with the red hat stopped, picked up another star fish and threw it into the water.
Finally, the first man hurried up to the one with the red hat and asked, "What are you doing?"
"Oh, I am saving the star fish."
"That's silly," replied the first man, "There are so many of them that it really doesn't matter."
With that, the man with the red hat stooped down, picked up another star fish, threw it in the water and said, "To that one it matters."
That story reinforces the words of Dr. Thomas Anthony Dooley, which he so beautifully expressed in his book, *The Night They Burned the Mountain*. Dr. Dooley said, "It's better to light one candle than to curse the darkness."
cheers,
BobbyWan
20 October 2007
Specially for women
WOMEN have strengths that amaze men and often intimidate them.
They carry children, they carry hardships, they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.
WOMEN wait by the phone for a "safe at home call" from a friend or relative after a late night drive home.
WOMEN have special qualities about them. They volunteer for good causes. They are pink ladies in hospitals, they bring food to shut ins.
They are childcare workers, executives, attorneys, stay-at-home moms, biker babes and your neighbours. They wear suits, jeans, and they wear uniforms.
They fight for what they believe in. They stand up for injustice. They are in the front row at PTA meetings. They vote for the person that will do the best job for family issues.
WOMEN walk and talk the extra mile to get their children in the right schools and for getting their family the right health care. They write to the editor, their congressmen and to the "powers that be" for things that make for a better life. They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.
WOMEN stick a love note in their husband's lunch box. They do without new shoes so their children can have them. They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They love unconditionally.
WOMEN are honest, loyal, and forgiving. They are smart, knowing that knowledge is power; but they still know how to use their softer side to make a point. WOMEN want to be the best for their family, their friends, and themselves. They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.
WOMEN are happy (or cry) when they hear about a birth or a new arriage.
Their hearts break when a friend dies. They have sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
A WOMAN'S touch can cure any ailment. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart. She can make a romantic evening unforgettable.
WOMEN come in all sizes, in all colours and shapes. They live in homes, apartments and cabins. They drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin!
WOMEN bring joy and hope. They give compassion and ideals. They give moral support to their family and friends. All they want back is a hug, a smile and for you to do the same to people you come in contact with.
Women have a lot to say and a lot to give.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!
Let's salute our women for what they have done for us - the men.
cheers,
BobbyWan
They carry children, they carry hardships, they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.
WOMEN wait by the phone for a "safe at home call" from a friend or relative after a late night drive home.
WOMEN have special qualities about them. They volunteer for good causes. They are pink ladies in hospitals, they bring food to shut ins.
They are childcare workers, executives, attorneys, stay-at-home moms, biker babes and your neighbours. They wear suits, jeans, and they wear uniforms.
They fight for what they believe in. They stand up for injustice. They are in the front row at PTA meetings. They vote for the person that will do the best job for family issues.
WOMEN walk and talk the extra mile to get their children in the right schools and for getting their family the right health care. They write to the editor, their congressmen and to the "powers that be" for things that make for a better life. They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.
WOMEN stick a love note in their husband's lunch box. They do without new shoes so their children can have them. They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They love unconditionally.
WOMEN are honest, loyal, and forgiving. They are smart, knowing that knowledge is power; but they still know how to use their softer side to make a point. WOMEN want to be the best for their family, their friends, and themselves. They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.
WOMEN are happy (or cry) when they hear about a birth or a new arriage.
Their hearts break when a friend dies. They have sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
A WOMAN'S touch can cure any ailment. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart. She can make a romantic evening unforgettable.
WOMEN come in all sizes, in all colours and shapes. They live in homes, apartments and cabins. They drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin!
WOMEN bring joy and hope. They give compassion and ideals. They give moral support to their family and friends. All they want back is a hug, a smile and for you to do the same to people you come in contact with.
Women have a lot to say and a lot to give.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!
Let's salute our women for what they have done for us - the men.
cheers,
BobbyWan
15 October 2007
DEALING WITH DIFFERENT PEOPLE DIFFERENTLY
Have you ever had one of those presentations where you really hit it
off with a prospect? It was like the two of you had known each other
for twenty years. Then, in the same day you talk with a prospect and
no matter what you say or do, you can't seem to make any progress.
Sound familiar? This is a common problem for internet marketers.
The reason for this is that every person has their own personality.
There are four distinct personalities, so if you are dealing with all
people the same way, then you are only handling a quarter of the people
correctly. No person is ever totally one personality. We are all
mixtures, but you will discover that people operate primarily in one of
the four types. Here are the four personality types you will encounter
and the associated characteristics:
Analytical & Amiable:
Ask a lot of questions; speak softly; move slowly; very little eye
contact; will lean back in chair; no hand gestures; patient;
cooperative; calm.
Driver & Expressive:
Tells you things; speak loudly; fast movements; direct eye contact;
lean toward you; animated hand gestures; impatient; competitive;
excitable; enthusiastic; outwardly; positive.
As you meet prospects, try to determine their personality type. Take
notes and compare them to the characteristics listed in this section.
The more you study personalities and the better you understand how to
recognize them, the better you will do in business and in life. Next,
you will want to know how to best handle each personality type.
Analytical:
Let them feel they are right; give them facts first; stress the
rational and logical facts; observe time constraints; compliment them
regularly; give quick, precise answers.
Driver:
Dress professionally; get right to the point; do not waste time; stress
results; ask questions that force attention; change voice inflection to
maintain interest; put everything in writing; let them feel they are in
control; give them choices.
Amiable:
Be friendly and build rapport quickly; talk emotionally; don't pressure
them; take your time; reassure them regularly; allow them to include
others in decisions; give them one positive choice; help them justify
their decision.
Expressive:
Present the "big picture"; talk emotionally; recognize them as being
important; put details in writing and explain carefully; reassure them
regularly.
Recognizing the different personality types and being capable of
working with them at their level will make prospecting more fun and you
will recruit more people with less effort.
cheers,
BobbyWan
off with a prospect? It was like the two of you had known each other
for twenty years. Then, in the same day you talk with a prospect and
no matter what you say or do, you can't seem to make any progress.
Sound familiar? This is a common problem for internet marketers.
The reason for this is that every person has their own personality.
There are four distinct personalities, so if you are dealing with all
people the same way, then you are only handling a quarter of the people
correctly. No person is ever totally one personality. We are all
mixtures, but you will discover that people operate primarily in one of
the four types. Here are the four personality types you will encounter
and the associated characteristics:
Analytical & Amiable:
Ask a lot of questions; speak softly; move slowly; very little eye
contact; will lean back in chair; no hand gestures; patient;
cooperative; calm.
Driver & Expressive:
Tells you things; speak loudly; fast movements; direct eye contact;
lean toward you; animated hand gestures; impatient; competitive;
excitable; enthusiastic; outwardly; positive.
As you meet prospects, try to determine their personality type. Take
notes and compare them to the characteristics listed in this section.
The more you study personalities and the better you understand how to
recognize them, the better you will do in business and in life. Next,
you will want to know how to best handle each personality type.
Analytical:
Let them feel they are right; give them facts first; stress the
rational and logical facts; observe time constraints; compliment them
regularly; give quick, precise answers.
Driver:
Dress professionally; get right to the point; do not waste time; stress
results; ask questions that force attention; change voice inflection to
maintain interest; put everything in writing; let them feel they are in
control; give them choices.
Amiable:
Be friendly and build rapport quickly; talk emotionally; don't pressure
them; take your time; reassure them regularly; allow them to include
others in decisions; give them one positive choice; help them justify
their decision.
Expressive:
Present the "big picture"; talk emotionally; recognize them as being
important; put details in writing and explain carefully; reassure them
regularly.
Recognizing the different personality types and being capable of
working with them at their level will make prospecting more fun and you
will recruit more people with less effort.
cheers,
BobbyWan
11 October 2007
21 Tops
There's some mighty fine advice in these words, even if you're not superstitious. This has been sent To you from the Anthony Robbins organization. It has been sent around the world ten times so Far.
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson .
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
cheers:)
BobbyWan
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson .
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
cheers:)
BobbyWan
28 September 2007
For Results - Think of Seminar As Maternity Ward
As you continue your quest for personal growth, you will very likely, at some point in time, attend a seminar or course on one or more facets of professional or personal development.
Think of that seminar as a maternity ward. As in all maternity wards, if you're not expecting when you go in, you won't come out with anything.
In much the same way, in advance of attending a seminar on personal or professional development, make sure you articulate to yourself, preferably in writing, three to five things you hope to achieve as a result of attending that seminar.
Remember, if you're not expecting, then you won't get anything!
Think of that seminar as a maternity ward. As in all maternity wards, if you're not expecting when you go in, you won't come out with anything.
In much the same way, in advance of attending a seminar on personal or professional development, make sure you articulate to yourself, preferably in writing, three to five things you hope to achieve as a result of attending that seminar.
Remember, if you're not expecting, then you won't get anything!
23 September 2007
Paradox of our time
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings,
but shorter tempers;
wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints;
we spend more, but have less;
we buy more, but enjoy it less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families;
more conveniences, but less time;
we have more degrees, but less sense;
more knowledge, but less judgment;
more experts, but less problems solved;
more medicine, but less wellness.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our value.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life;
we've added years to life, not life to years.
We've been all the way to the moon, but have trouble
crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.
We've conquered outer space, but not inner space;
we've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul;
We've split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We have higher incomes, but lower morals;
we've become long on quantity, but short on quality.
These are the times of tall men, and short character;
steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare;
More leisure, but less fun;
more kinds of food, but less nutrition.
These are days of two incomes, but more divorce;
of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window
and nothing in the stockroom;
a time when technology can bring this letter to you, and
a time when you can choose either to make a difference...
or just hit delete.
cheers,
BobbyWan:)
but shorter tempers;
wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints;
we spend more, but have less;
we buy more, but enjoy it less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families;
more conveniences, but less time;
we have more degrees, but less sense;
more knowledge, but less judgment;
more experts, but less problems solved;
more medicine, but less wellness.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our value.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life;
we've added years to life, not life to years.
We've been all the way to the moon, but have trouble
crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.
We've conquered outer space, but not inner space;
we've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul;
We've split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We have higher incomes, but lower morals;
we've become long on quantity, but short on quality.
These are the times of tall men, and short character;
steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare;
More leisure, but less fun;
more kinds of food, but less nutrition.
These are days of two incomes, but more divorce;
of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window
and nothing in the stockroom;
a time when technology can bring this letter to you, and
a time when you can choose either to make a difference...
or just hit delete.
cheers,
BobbyWan:)
22 September 2007
Become More Effective By Using The OATS Formula
Experts say you need only 30 minutes to plan your entire week if you follow the OATS formula:
* OBJECTIVES: What results do you want to see by the end of the week? Write them down and rank them.
* ACTIVITIES: What do you have to do to achieve your goals?
List the necessary activities and put them in sequence.
* TIME: How much time will each activity require? Give yourself flexibility by allowing more time than you think you'll actually need.
* SCHEDULE: Look at your calendar and decide when you can do each activity. Remember, you won't get anything accomplished if you don't schedule time to do it.
Use the OATS formula to manage your time and your life, and thus become much more effective.
cheers,
BobbyWan
* OBJECTIVES: What results do you want to see by the end of the week? Write them down and rank them.
* ACTIVITIES: What do you have to do to achieve your goals?
List the necessary activities and put them in sequence.
* TIME: How much time will each activity require? Give yourself flexibility by allowing more time than you think you'll actually need.
* SCHEDULE: Look at your calendar and decide when you can do each activity. Remember, you won't get anything accomplished if you don't schedule time to do it.
Use the OATS formula to manage your time and your life, and thus become much more effective.
cheers,
BobbyWan
The Most Difficult Instrument To Play
Do you know what is the hardest instrument in the orchestra to play? The hardest instrument to play is second fiddle.
While all the rest of the instruments have their own sections, the violins are divided into two parts -- "first" and "second" violins. First violins are often the stars of the show.
They get the melody lines. They get to show off. They sit next to the audience. Back behind, where they are hard to see, are the second violins.
They play a supporting role. They play harmony to the first violins.
There's is a often service role. Their job is to round out the sound of the other instruments. They serve the orchestra.
They do what is not glamorous so that the whole will be beautiful. Without the second violins, the orchestra would sound incomplete.
You know what the hardest role to play in life is? Second fiddle. To play second fiddle is to play a supporting role for someone else. Or second fiddle is sometimes a service role; doing what is not glamorous, usually behind the scenes, so that the world can be more beautiful.
The late Leo Buscaglia, that effervescent educator, speaker, author, and lover of life, used to tell his university students that there is a world out there dying to be loved! He used to challenge his students to love and often told them that serving others is the way they can find such things as happiness and joy.
He sometimes told about Joel. Leo got Joel hooked on serving. He took him to a nursing home and said, "You see that woman sitting over there? I want you to go and introduce yourself to her."
Joel was not looking forward to his nursing home visit. But he nevertheless went to the stranger and introduced himself. She looked at him skeptically and asked, "Are you one of my relatives?"
Joel answered, "No. I'm not."
And she said, "Good, I hate my relatives. Sit down, son, and talk to me."
He did and they talked. He went back the next week. And the next. They developed a close friendship and Joel looked forward to his visits. He learned something about the joy of serving. About working behind the scenes. About playing second fiddle.
And he thereby made the world a little more beautiful
While all the rest of the instruments have their own sections, the violins are divided into two parts -- "first" and "second" violins. First violins are often the stars of the show.
They get the melody lines. They get to show off. They sit next to the audience. Back behind, where they are hard to see, are the second violins.
They play a supporting role. They play harmony to the first violins.
There's is a often service role. Their job is to round out the sound of the other instruments. They serve the orchestra.
They do what is not glamorous so that the whole will be beautiful. Without the second violins, the orchestra would sound incomplete.
You know what the hardest role to play in life is? Second fiddle. To play second fiddle is to play a supporting role for someone else. Or second fiddle is sometimes a service role; doing what is not glamorous, usually behind the scenes, so that the world can be more beautiful.
The late Leo Buscaglia, that effervescent educator, speaker, author, and lover of life, used to tell his university students that there is a world out there dying to be loved! He used to challenge his students to love and often told them that serving others is the way they can find such things as happiness and joy.
He sometimes told about Joel. Leo got Joel hooked on serving. He took him to a nursing home and said, "You see that woman sitting over there? I want you to go and introduce yourself to her."
Joel was not looking forward to his nursing home visit. But he nevertheless went to the stranger and introduced himself. She looked at him skeptically and asked, "Are you one of my relatives?"
Joel answered, "No. I'm not."
And she said, "Good, I hate my relatives. Sit down, son, and talk to me."
He did and they talked. He went back the next week. And the next. They developed a close friendship and Joel looked forward to his visits. He learned something about the joy of serving. About working behind the scenes. About playing second fiddle.
And he thereby made the world a little more beautiful
Enhance Voice Appeal With Good Body Language
John was losing more than his share of sales because his voice was flat, uninteresting and unconvincing. He spoke in a monotone. Several attempts were tried to improve his voice. Finally one speech therapist suggested he begin using his body more while talking. He maintained that voice modulation, tempo and overall drama are enhanced when the speaker is physically animated.
John found ways to use his hands to emphasize points. He walked around more, and used facial expressions to go with his words. He saw an instant improvement in the impact of his presentations. Adding animated body language can even improve telephone conversations.
If you are looking for ways to improve your presentations, consider improving your body language.
cheers,
BobbyWan
John found ways to use his hands to emphasize points. He walked around more, and used facial expressions to go with his words. He saw an instant improvement in the impact of his presentations. Adding animated body language can even improve telephone conversations.
If you are looking for ways to improve your presentations, consider improving your body language.
cheers,
BobbyWan
Control Every Situation By Altering Your Response
Jack Canfield (of "Chicken Soup for the Soul" fame) discusses the concept of "response ability" as a practical and highly successful way to achieve favorable results, no matter what the event. He outlines the following
formula:
E + R = O
E = event, R = response and O = outcome
You usually have no control over an event, but you have the ability to control your response, and thus the outcome. This formula can be applied to virtually every situation in your personal and professional life.
By changing your response to a particular situation, you can change the result.
Source: "How to Build High Self-esteem" by Jack Canfield (adapted)
cheers,
BobbyWan
formula:
E + R = O
E = event, R = response and O = outcome
You usually have no control over an event, but you have the ability to control your response, and thus the outcome. This formula can be applied to virtually every situation in your personal and professional life.
By changing your response to a particular situation, you can change the result.
Source: "How to Build High Self-esteem" by Jack Canfield (adapted)
cheers,
BobbyWan
How To Manage Your Anger
There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail in the back fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.
Then, he discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Over time it dwindled until finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed.
The young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one."
The next time you are about to say something in anger or frustration, stop yourself and think of this story. Is the immediate satisfaction of winning the battle worth the long-term effect on the war?
cheers,
BobbyWan
Then, he discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Over time it dwindled until finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed.
The young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one."
The next time you are about to say something in anger or frustration, stop yourself and think of this story. Is the immediate satisfaction of winning the battle worth the long-term effect on the war?
cheers,
BobbyWan
21 September 2007
Behavior Determines Outcome
Inspiration rarely strikes like a flash of lightning. More often, it's a conscious realization that what we HAVE and what we BECOME are direct consequences of what we DO.
Motivation is understanding that behavior determines outcome. We may want a better figure, more satisfying job, newer car, nicer house, better relationship or something else. The motivation to achieve these goals isn't something that will miraculously happen. Motivation inevitably comes from within. It occurs when we finally make the connection between action and reaction.
Until we motivate ourselves, nobody can start us toward realization of our dreams. After we do, nobody can stop us.
Motivation is understanding that behavior determines outcome. We may want a better figure, more satisfying job, newer car, nicer house, better relationship or something else. The motivation to achieve these goals isn't something that will miraculously happen. Motivation inevitably comes from within. It occurs when we finally make the connection between action and reaction.
Until we motivate ourselves, nobody can start us toward realization of our dreams. After we do, nobody can stop us.
Shot Of Enthusiasm
Enthusiasm is something I can get excited about!
I remember a story told about playwright and US Ambassador to Italy, Claire Booth Luce. She became a Roman Catholic late in life and, like may others converted to something new, she seemed to possess limitless enthusiasm and energy about her new faith.
A reporter once spotted her engrossed in deep conversation with the pope.
He crept within earshot, all the while wondering what important issues the ambassador and the pope could be discussing. Finally, he was close enough to hear the pope say to Ms. Luce, "But I already AM a Catholic!"
Only an abundance of enthusiasm could lead someone to try to convert the pope! Yet, is there such a thing as a successful life without enthusiasm?
It is a by-product of a life focused on that which is great and magnificent and beautiful. It is like energy pulsing forth from one who, in a positive way, is obsessed by a greater truth, a more beautiful dream, a more captivating vision.
Enthusiasm attracts people. And enthusiastic people are more likely to realize that beautiful dream which has hold of their heart. Is your enthusiasm showing?
I remember a story told about playwright and US Ambassador to Italy, Claire Booth Luce. She became a Roman Catholic late in life and, like may others converted to something new, she seemed to possess limitless enthusiasm and energy about her new faith.
A reporter once spotted her engrossed in deep conversation with the pope.
He crept within earshot, all the while wondering what important issues the ambassador and the pope could be discussing. Finally, he was close enough to hear the pope say to Ms. Luce, "But I already AM a Catholic!"
Only an abundance of enthusiasm could lead someone to try to convert the pope! Yet, is there such a thing as a successful life without enthusiasm?
It is a by-product of a life focused on that which is great and magnificent and beautiful. It is like energy pulsing forth from one who, in a positive way, is obsessed by a greater truth, a more beautiful dream, a more captivating vision.
Enthusiasm attracts people. And enthusiastic people are more likely to realize that beautiful dream which has hold of their heart. Is your enthusiasm showing?
The Heart of Friendship
Many of our readers know that, in their country, a man and woman often do not know each other until after they are married. But this is also true in America...
It may take years for couples to really know one another. Relationships of any kind, and especially "intimate" relationships, require good communication if they are to flourish.
A funny story has it that a divorce lawyer was contacted by a woman who wanted to hire him to represent her. He wanted to get more information, so he asked her if she had grounds. She said, "Yes, we have about an acre and a half."
"No, you don't understand what I mean," he said. "Do you have a grudge?"
"No," she answered, "but we have a covered driveway that seems to work well."
He forged on. "I'm not talking about your property, ma'am. I'm talking about your marriage. For instance, does your husband beat you up?"
"No. I generally get up before he does," she said.The lawyer replied in frustration, "You don't understand at all what I mean here! I want to find the reason why you came today. WHY do you want a divorce?"
She said, "I DON'T want a divorce! My husband wants the divorce. He says we can't communicate."
All close relationships require good communication. They begin with KNOWING each other -- as fully as possible. Then comes UNDERSTANDING. And from understanding, grows ACCEPTANCE. Finally, from acceptance comes something vital to any significant relationship, including marriage -- FRIENDSHIP.
As someone beautifully wrote:
"A friend is someone who knows you as you are, understands where you've been, accepts who you've become and still gently invites you to grow."
Friends like that are rare, indeed. But it all begins with knowing the other, for at the heart of friendship is communication. And is there anything better than to be truly known, understood and accepted? That time invested in good communication today will pay big dividends in lasting friendship tomorrow.
It may take years for couples to really know one another. Relationships of any kind, and especially "intimate" relationships, require good communication if they are to flourish.
A funny story has it that a divorce lawyer was contacted by a woman who wanted to hire him to represent her. He wanted to get more information, so he asked her if she had grounds. She said, "Yes, we have about an acre and a half."
"No, you don't understand what I mean," he said. "Do you have a grudge?"
"No," she answered, "but we have a covered driveway that seems to work well."
He forged on. "I'm not talking about your property, ma'am. I'm talking about your marriage. For instance, does your husband beat you up?"
"No. I generally get up before he does," she said.The lawyer replied in frustration, "You don't understand at all what I mean here! I want to find the reason why you came today. WHY do you want a divorce?"
She said, "I DON'T want a divorce! My husband wants the divorce. He says we can't communicate."
All close relationships require good communication. They begin with KNOWING each other -- as fully as possible. Then comes UNDERSTANDING. And from understanding, grows ACCEPTANCE. Finally, from acceptance comes something vital to any significant relationship, including marriage -- FRIENDSHIP.
As someone beautifully wrote:
"A friend is someone who knows you as you are, understands where you've been, accepts who you've become and still gently invites you to grow."
Friends like that are rare, indeed. But it all begins with knowing the other, for at the heart of friendship is communication. And is there anything better than to be truly known, understood and accepted? That time invested in good communication today will pay big dividends in lasting friendship tomorrow.
Look Inside To Create Yourself
Most of us wait to find out who we are from impressions and opinions we get from other people. We base our own self-image on other people's views of us.
"Oh, do you really think I'm good at that?" we ask, when someone compliments us. If we're persuaded that they are being honest and have made a good case, we alter our self-image upward. It's great getting feedback from others, especially positive feedback. And we all need it to live and feel good. But when it's all we've got, we're in danger of being far less than we could be, because our so-called SELF-image always depends on OTHERS. And all they see is what we're risking right now.
What they never see is what's inside of us, waiting to emerge. Because they can't see that, they will always underrate us. Your journey should be internal. Travel deeper and deeper inside to find out your own potential.
Your potential is your true identity - it only waits for self-motivation to come alive.
"For this is the journey that men and women make," said James A. Michener, "to find themselves. If they fail in this, it doesn't matter much else what they find." Let positive reinforcement and compliments be a mere seasoning to your life. But prepare your life's meal yourself.
Don't look outside to FIND OUT who you are. Rather, look inside and CREATE who you are.
"Oh, do you really think I'm good at that?" we ask, when someone compliments us. If we're persuaded that they are being honest and have made a good case, we alter our self-image upward. It's great getting feedback from others, especially positive feedback. And we all need it to live and feel good. But when it's all we've got, we're in danger of being far less than we could be, because our so-called SELF-image always depends on OTHERS. And all they see is what we're risking right now.
What they never see is what's inside of us, waiting to emerge. Because they can't see that, they will always underrate us. Your journey should be internal. Travel deeper and deeper inside to find out your own potential.
Your potential is your true identity - it only waits for self-motivation to come alive.
"For this is the journey that men and women make," said James A. Michener, "to find themselves. If they fail in this, it doesn't matter much else what they find." Let positive reinforcement and compliments be a mere seasoning to your life. But prepare your life's meal yourself.
Don't look outside to FIND OUT who you are. Rather, look inside and CREATE who you are.
The Touchstone
Do you know the story of the touchstone? It tells about a fortunate man who was told that if he should possess the "touchstone" its magical powers could give him anything he wanted. The touchstone could be found, he was informed, among the pebbles of a certain beach. All he need do is pick up a stone -- if it feels warm to the touch, unlike the other pebbles, he has found the magical touchstone.
The man went immediately to the beach and began picking up stones. When he grasped a pebble that felt cold, he threw it into the sea. This practice he continued hour after hour, day after day, week after week. Each pebble felt cold. Each pebble was immediately tossed into the sea. But then, late one morning, he happened to take hold of a pebble which felt warm, unlike the other stones. The man, who's conscience had barely registered the difference... tossed it into the sea.
He hadn't meant to, but he had formed a habit! Any behavior that we repeat, we reinforce. Repeat it often enough and it becomes habit. That, of course, can work to our advantage or work against us, depending on the behavior.
Is there a behavior you would like to make into a habit? Then reinforce it by repeating that behavior at every opportunity. In this manner, your life will, day by day, become filled with the kinds of habits that build beautiful lives.
cheers,
Bobby Wan
The man went immediately to the beach and began picking up stones. When he grasped a pebble that felt cold, he threw it into the sea. This practice he continued hour after hour, day after day, week after week. Each pebble felt cold. Each pebble was immediately tossed into the sea. But then, late one morning, he happened to take hold of a pebble which felt warm, unlike the other stones. The man, who's conscience had barely registered the difference... tossed it into the sea.
He hadn't meant to, but he had formed a habit! Any behavior that we repeat, we reinforce. Repeat it often enough and it becomes habit. That, of course, can work to our advantage or work against us, depending on the behavior.
Is there a behavior you would like to make into a habit? Then reinforce it by repeating that behavior at every opportunity. In this manner, your life will, day by day, become filled with the kinds of habits that build beautiful lives.
cheers,
Bobby Wan
20 September 2007
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner..
It Doesn’t Matter You Are Married or Not You Should Read This...
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.
Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on hernface, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she\nhad grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life.
My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. ",
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: "I'll carry you out every morning until deaths do us apart"
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage. Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken. We teach some by what we say ,we teach some more by what we do but we teach most by what we are.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.
Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on hernface, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she\nhad grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life.
My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. ",
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: "I'll carry you out every morning until deaths do us apart"
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage. Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken. We teach some by what we say ,we teach some more by what we do but we teach most by what we are.
A Lesson On Marriage, Love, And Commitment
THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE - BRILLIANT & A MUST READ
THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE - BRILLIANT & A MUST READ
This is absolutely BRILLIANT.
For those who speak English well, you will find it amusing.
For those who don’t, then this is an eye-opener.
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English
Can you read these right the first time?
1) The bandage was wound around the wound.
2) The farm was used to produce produce .
3) The dump was so full that it had to refuse more refuse.
4) We must polish the Polish furniture.
5) He could lead if he would get the lead out.
6) The soldier decided to desert his dessert in the desert.
7) Since there is no time like the present, he thought it was time to present the present .
8) A bass was painted on the head of the bass drum.
9) When shot at, the dove dove into the bushes.
10) I did not object to the object.
11) The insurance was invalid for the invalid.
12) There was a row among the oarsmen about how to row .
13) They were too close to the door to close it.
14) The buck does funny things when the does are present.
15) A seamstress and a sewer fell down into a sewer line.
16) To help with planting, the farmer taught his sow to sow.
17) The wind was too strong to wind the sail.
18) Upon seeing the tear in the painting I shed a tear.
19) I had to subject the subject to a series of tests.
20) How can I intimate this to my most intimate friend?
Let's face it - English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant, nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins weren't invented in England or French fries in France . Sweetmeats are candies while sweetbreads, which aren't sweet, are meat. We take English for granted. But if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.
And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing, grocers don't groce and hammers don't ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn't the plural of booth, beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? One index, 2 indices? Doesn't it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend? If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?
If teachers taught, why didn't preachers praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat? Sometimes I think all the English speakers should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane. In what langua ge do people recite at a play and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell?
How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites? You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which, an alarm goes off by going on.
English was invented by people, not computers, and it reflects the creativity of the human race, which, of course, is not a race at all. That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible.
PS. - Why doesn't "Buick" rhyme with "quick" You lovers of the English language might enjoy this . .
There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other two-letter word, and that is "UP."
It's easy to understand UP , meaning toward the sky or at the top of the list, but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP? At a meeting, why does a topic come UP ? Why do we speak UP and why are the officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a report ?
We call UP our friends. And we use it to brighten UP a room, polish UP the silver, we warm UP the leftovers and clean UP the kitchen. We lock UP the house and some guys fix UP the old car. At other times the little word has real special meaning. People stir UP trouble, line UP for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses. To be dressed is one thing but to be dressed UP is special.
And this UP is confusing: A drain must be opened UP because it is stopped UP . We open UP a store in the morning but we close it UP at night.
We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP ! To be knowledgeable about the proper uses of UP , look the word UP in the dictionary. In a desk-sized dictionary, it takes UP almost 1/4th of the page and can add UP to about thirty definitions. If you are UP to it, you might try building UP a list of the many ways UP is used. It will take UP a lot of your time, but if you don't give UP , you may wind UP with a hundred or more. When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP. When the sun comes out we say it is clearing UP .
cheers,
Bobby Wan
This is absolutely BRILLIANT.
For those who speak English well, you will find it amusing.
For those who don’t, then this is an eye-opener.
____________________________________
English
Can you read these right the first time?
1) The bandage was wound around the wound.
2) The farm was used to produce produce .
3) The dump was so full that it had to refuse more refuse.
4) We must polish the Polish furniture.
5) He could lead if he would get the lead out.
6) The soldier decided to desert his dessert in the desert.
7) Since there is no time like the present, he thought it was time to present the present .
8) A bass was painted on the head of the bass drum.
9) When shot at, the dove dove into the bushes.
10) I did not object to the object.
11) The insurance was invalid for the invalid.
12) There was a row among the oarsmen about how to row .
13) They were too close to the door to close it.
14) The buck does funny things when the does are present.
15) A seamstress and a sewer fell down into a sewer line.
16) To help with planting, the farmer taught his sow to sow.
17) The wind was too strong to wind the sail.
18) Upon seeing the tear in the painting I shed a tear.
19) I had to subject the subject to a series of tests.
20) How can I intimate this to my most intimate friend?
Let's face it - English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant, nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins weren't invented in England or French fries in France . Sweetmeats are candies while sweetbreads, which aren't sweet, are meat. We take English for granted. But if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.
And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing, grocers don't groce and hammers don't ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn't the plural of booth, beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? One index, 2 indices? Doesn't it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend? If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?
If teachers taught, why didn't preachers praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat? Sometimes I think all the English speakers should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane. In what langua ge do people recite at a play and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell?
How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites? You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which, an alarm goes off by going on.
English was invented by people, not computers, and it reflects the creativity of the human race, which, of course, is not a race at all. That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible.
PS. - Why doesn't "Buick" rhyme with "quick" You lovers of the English language might enjoy this . .
There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other two-letter word, and that is "UP."
It's easy to understand UP , meaning toward the sky or at the top of the list, but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP? At a meeting, why does a topic come UP ? Why do we speak UP and why are the officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a report ?
We call UP our friends. And we use it to brighten UP a room, polish UP the silver, we warm UP the leftovers and clean UP the kitchen. We lock UP the house and some guys fix UP the old car. At other times the little word has real special meaning. People stir UP trouble, line UP for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses. To be dressed is one thing but to be dressed UP is special.
And this UP is confusing: A drain must be opened UP because it is stopped UP . We open UP a store in the morning but we close it UP at night.
We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP ! To be knowledgeable about the proper uses of UP , look the word UP in the dictionary. In a desk-sized dictionary, it takes UP almost 1/4th of the page and can add UP to about thirty definitions. If you are UP to it, you might try building UP a list of the many ways UP is used. It will take UP a lot of your time, but if you don't give UP , you may wind UP with a hundred or more. When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP. When the sun comes out we say it is clearing UP .
cheers,
Bobby Wan
16 September 2007
Express Yourself
READ ALONE.....ESPECIALLY THE LAST PART
Around the corner I have a friend,
In this great city that has no end,
Yet the days go by and weeks rush on,
And before I know it, a year is gone.
And I never see my old friends face,
For life is a swift and terrible race,
He knows I like him just as well,
As in the days when I rang his bell.
And he rang mine if, we were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men.
Tired of playing a foolish game,
Tired of trying to make a name.
"Tomorrow" I say! "I will call on Jim"
"Just to show that I'm thinking of him."
But tomorrow comes and tomorrow goes,
And distance between us grows and grows.
Around the corner! yet miles away,
"Here's a telegram sir" "Jim died today."
And that's what we get and deserve in the end.
Around the corner, a vanished friend.
Remember to always say what you mean.
If you love someone, tell them.
Don't be afraid to express yourself. Reach out and tell someone what they mean to you. Because when you decide that it is the right time it might be too late.
Around the corner I have a friend,
In this great city that has no end,
Yet the days go by and weeks rush on,
And before I know it, a year is gone.
And I never see my old friends face,
For life is a swift and terrible race,
He knows I like him just as well,
As in the days when I rang his bell.
And he rang mine if, we were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men.
Tired of playing a foolish game,
Tired of trying to make a name.
"Tomorrow" I say! "I will call on Jim"
"Just to show that I'm thinking of him."
But tomorrow comes and tomorrow goes,
And distance between us grows and grows.
Around the corner! yet miles away,
"Here's a telegram sir" "Jim died today."
And that's what we get and deserve in the end.
Around the corner, a vanished friend.
Remember to always say what you mean.
If you love someone, tell them.
Don't be afraid to express yourself. Reach out and tell someone what they mean to you. Because when you decide that it is the right time it might be too late.
13 September 2007
LOOK INSIDE TO CREATE YOURSELF
Most of us wait to find out who we are from impressions and opinions we get from other people. We base our own self-image on other people's views of us.
"Oh, do you really think I'm good at that?" we ask, when someone compliments us. If we're persuaded that they are being honest and have made a good case, we alter our self-image upward. It's great getting feedback from others, especially positive feedback. And we all need it to live and feel good.
But when it's all we've got, we're in danger of being far less than we could be, because our so-called SELF-image always depends on OTHERS. And all they see is what we're risking right now.
What they never see is what's inside of us, waiting to emerge. Because they can't see that, they will always underrate us. Your journey should be internal. Travel deeper and deeper inside to find out your own potential.
Your potential is your true identity - it only waits for self-motivation to come alive.
"For this is the journey that men and women make," said James A. Michener, "to find themselves. If they fail in this, it doesn't matter much else what they find." Let positive reinforcement and compliments be a mere seasoning to your life. But prepare your life's meal yourself.
Don't look outside to FIND OUT who you are. Rather, look inside and CREATE who you are.
"Oh, do you really think I'm good at that?" we ask, when someone compliments us. If we're persuaded that they are being honest and have made a good case, we alter our self-image upward. It's great getting feedback from others, especially positive feedback. And we all need it to live and feel good.
But when it's all we've got, we're in danger of being far less than we could be, because our so-called SELF-image always depends on OTHERS. And all they see is what we're risking right now.
What they never see is what's inside of us, waiting to emerge. Because they can't see that, they will always underrate us. Your journey should be internal. Travel deeper and deeper inside to find out your own potential.
Your potential is your true identity - it only waits for self-motivation to come alive.
"For this is the journey that men and women make," said James A. Michener, "to find themselves. If they fail in this, it doesn't matter much else what they find." Let positive reinforcement and compliments be a mere seasoning to your life. But prepare your life's meal yourself.
Don't look outside to FIND OUT who you are. Rather, look inside and CREATE who you are.
11 September 2007
Vitamins for the Mind
Vitamins for the Mind- GOALS/GOAL SETTING
The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes
of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be
the far greater value than what you get.
When Andrew Carnegie died, they discovered a sheet of paper
upon which he had written one of the major goals of his life:
to spend the first half of his life accumulating money and to
spend the last half of his life giving it all away. And he
did!
Some people are disturbed by those tough days because all
they have is the days. They haven't designed or described or
defined the future.
Goals. There's no telling what you can do when you get
inspired by them. There's no telling what you can do when you
believe in them. And there's no telling what will happen
when you act upon them.
We all need lots of powerful long-range goals to help us past
the short-term obstacles.
The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to
become the person it takes to achieve them.
Don't set your goals too low. If you don't need much, you
won't become much.
If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work
on you. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to
work on you. Whatever good things we build end up building
us.
We all have two choices: We can make a living or we can
design a life.
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"The twin killers of success are impatience and greed."
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""When you know what you want, and you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it."
The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes
of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be
the far greater value than what you get.
When Andrew Carnegie died, they discovered a sheet of paper
upon which he had written one of the major goals of his life:
to spend the first half of his life accumulating money and to
spend the last half of his life giving it all away. And he
did!
Some people are disturbed by those tough days because all
they have is the days. They haven't designed or described or
defined the future.
Goals. There's no telling what you can do when you get
inspired by them. There's no telling what you can do when you
believe in them. And there's no telling what will happen
when you act upon them.
We all need lots of powerful long-range goals to help us past
the short-term obstacles.
The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to
become the person it takes to achieve them.
Don't set your goals too low. If you don't need much, you
won't become much.
If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work
on you. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to
work on you. Whatever good things we build end up building
us.
We all have two choices: We can make a living or we can
design a life.
*************************************************************************************************
"The twin killers of success are impatience and greed."
****************************************************************************************************************
""When you know what you want, and you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it."
THE POWER OF WORDS
STORY OF TWO FROGS IN THE WELL
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit.
All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might.
The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead.
Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out.
When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?"
The frog explained to them that he was deaf.He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
This story teaches two lessons:
1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.
2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words....it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another.
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit.
All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might.
The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead.
Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out.
When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?"
The frog explained to them that he was deaf.He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
This story teaches two lessons:
1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.
2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words....it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another.
10 September 2007
Time Management
The busier you are, the more important to stop and read this story!
One day, an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration
those students will never forget.
As he stood in front of the group of high-powered overachievers, he said, "Okay, time for a quiz." He then pulled out a one-gallon,
wide-mouth mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. Then he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one by one, into the jar.
When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class said, "Yes." Then he said, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar, causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the space between the big rock.
Then he asked the group once more. "Is this jar full?" By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered. "Good!" he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel.
Once more he asked the question. "Is this jar full?" "No!" the class shouted. Once again, he said, "Good!" Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then the expert in time-management looked at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?"
One eager Beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things in it."
"No," the speaker replied, "that's not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is this: If you don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all. What are the big rocks in your life?" "Your children. Your spouse. Your loved ones. Your friendships.
Your education. Your dreams. A worthy cause. Teaching or mentoring others. Doing things that you love. Time for yourself. Your health."
Remember to put these BIG ROCKS in first, or you'll never get them in at all. If you sweat the little stuff (i.e. gravel, the sand) then you'll fill your life with little things you worry about that don't really matter, and you'll never have the real quality time you need to spend the big, important stuff (the big rocks).
So, tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question: "What are the "big rocks" in my life?"
Then put those in your jar first.
One day, an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration
those students will never forget.
As he stood in front of the group of high-powered overachievers, he said, "Okay, time for a quiz." He then pulled out a one-gallon,
wide-mouth mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. Then he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one by one, into the jar.
When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class said, "Yes." Then he said, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar, causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the space between the big rock.
Then he asked the group once more. "Is this jar full?" By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered. "Good!" he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel.
Once more he asked the question. "Is this jar full?" "No!" the class shouted. Once again, he said, "Good!" Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then the expert in time-management looked at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?"
One eager Beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things in it."
"No," the speaker replied, "that's not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is this: If you don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all. What are the big rocks in your life?" "Your children. Your spouse. Your loved ones. Your friendships.
Your education. Your dreams. A worthy cause. Teaching or mentoring others. Doing things that you love. Time for yourself. Your health."
Remember to put these BIG ROCKS in first, or you'll never get them in at all. If you sweat the little stuff (i.e. gravel, the sand) then you'll fill your life with little things you worry about that don't really matter, and you'll never have the real quality time you need to spend the big, important stuff (the big rocks).
So, tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question: "What are the "big rocks" in my life?"
Then put those in your jar first.
WATER THERAPY
6 glasses of water (1.5 litres). without spending on medicine, tablets, injections, diagnosis, doctor fees, etc., just by drinking pure water, the following diseases will be cured. you can never blieve before practising let us see the list of diseases being cured by this therapy diseases cured by drinking water
1. headache
2. blood pressure/hyper tension
3. anemia (blood shortage)
4. rheumatism (pain in joints/muscles)
5. general paralysis
6. obesity (very fatness)
7. artheritis
8. sinusitis
9. tachycardia
10. giddiness
11. cough (khansi)
12. asthma
13. bronchitis
14. pulminory tuberculosis (t.b.)
15. menengitis
16. kidney stones
17. urogenital deseases
18. hyper acidity
19. gastro-entritis
20. dysentry
21. rectal piodapse
22. constipation (kabj)
23. hostorthobics
24. diabetes (madhumeh)
25. eye deseases
26. opthelmic haemorrage & opthalmia (reddish eye)
27. irregular menstration
28. leucamia (white blood)
29. uterine cancer
30. breast cancer
31. laryngitis
1) early morning after you get up from bed (without even brushing your teeth) drink 1.50 litres of water i.e.,5 to 6 glasses. Better to premeasure 1.50 ltrs of water. let us all know that our ancestors termed this therapy as "usha paana chikitsa". you may wash your face thereafter.
2) here it is very essential to note that nothing else - neither drinks nor solid food of any sort - should be taken within 1 hours before and after drinking this 1.50 litres of water.
3) it is also to be strictly observed that no alcoholic drinks should be taken the previous night.
4) if required, boiled and filtered water may be used for this purpose. is it possible to drink 1.50 litres of water at one time?
1) to begin with, one may find it difficult to drink 1.50 litres of water at one time, but one will get used to it gradually. initially, while practising you may drink four
glasses first and the balance two glasses after a gap of two minutes. initially you may find the necessity to urinate 2 to 3 times within an hour, but it will become
normal after sometime. by research and experience, the following diseases are observed to be cured with this therapy within the indicated days as below:
constipation 1 day
acidity 2 days
diabetes 7 days
bp & hypertension 4 weeks
cancer 4 weeks
pulminory tb 3 months
Note:
it is advised that persons suffering from artheritis or rheumatism should practise this therapy thrice a day, i.e.,morning, midday and night, 1 hours before meals - for one week; and twice a day subsequently till the disease is cured. how does pure water act?
consuming ordinary drinking water by the right method purifies human body. it renders the colon more effective by forming new fresh blood, known in medical terms as
haematopaises. that the mucousal folds of the colon and intestines are activated by this method,is an undisputed fact, just as the theory that new fresh blood is produced by the mucousal fold. if the colon is cleaned then the nutrients of the food taken several times a day will be absorbed and by the action of the mucousal folds they are turned into fresh blood. the blood is all important in curing ailments and restoring health, and for this water should be consumed in a regular pattern. we make an earnest request that the above method should be read and practised carefully.
please spread this message to your friends, relatives and neighbours - it is a great service to the cause of humanity.
Learn to make the most of life,
Lose no happy day.
Time can never bring you back
Chances swept away.
Leave no tender word unsaid,
Love while life shall last.
The mill will never turn again,
With water that has passed.
1. headache
2. blood pressure/hyper tension
3. anemia (blood shortage)
4. rheumatism (pain in joints/muscles)
5. general paralysis
6. obesity (very fatness)
7. artheritis
8. sinusitis
9. tachycardia
10. giddiness
11. cough (khansi)
12. asthma
13. bronchitis
14. pulminory tuberculosis (t.b.)
15. menengitis
16. kidney stones
17. urogenital deseases
18. hyper acidity
19. gastro-entritis
20. dysentry
21. rectal piodapse
22. constipation (kabj)
23. hostorthobics
24. diabetes (madhumeh)
25. eye deseases
26. opthelmic haemorrage & opthalmia (reddish eye)
27. irregular menstration
28. leucamia (white blood)
29. uterine cancer
30. breast cancer
31. laryngitis
1) early morning after you get up from bed (without even brushing your teeth) drink 1.50 litres of water i.e.,5 to 6 glasses. Better to premeasure 1.50 ltrs of water. let us all know that our ancestors termed this therapy as "usha paana chikitsa". you may wash your face thereafter.
2) here it is very essential to note that nothing else - neither drinks nor solid food of any sort - should be taken within 1 hours before and after drinking this 1.50 litres of water.
3) it is also to be strictly observed that no alcoholic drinks should be taken the previous night.
4) if required, boiled and filtered water may be used for this purpose. is it possible to drink 1.50 litres of water at one time?
1) to begin with, one may find it difficult to drink 1.50 litres of water at one time, but one will get used to it gradually. initially, while practising you may drink four
glasses first and the balance two glasses after a gap of two minutes. initially you may find the necessity to urinate 2 to 3 times within an hour, but it will become
normal after sometime. by research and experience, the following diseases are observed to be cured with this therapy within the indicated days as below:
constipation 1 day
acidity 2 days
diabetes 7 days
bp & hypertension 4 weeks
cancer 4 weeks
pulminory tb 3 months
Note:
it is advised that persons suffering from artheritis or rheumatism should practise this therapy thrice a day, i.e.,morning, midday and night, 1 hours before meals - for one week; and twice a day subsequently till the disease is cured. how does pure water act?
consuming ordinary drinking water by the right method purifies human body. it renders the colon more effective by forming new fresh blood, known in medical terms as
haematopaises. that the mucousal folds of the colon and intestines are activated by this method,is an undisputed fact, just as the theory that new fresh blood is produced by the mucousal fold. if the colon is cleaned then the nutrients of the food taken several times a day will be absorbed and by the action of the mucousal folds they are turned into fresh blood. the blood is all important in curing ailments and restoring health, and for this water should be consumed in a regular pattern. we make an earnest request that the above method should be read and practised carefully.
please spread this message to your friends, relatives and neighbours - it is a great service to the cause of humanity.
Learn to make the most of life,
Lose no happy day.
Time can never bring you back
Chances swept away.
Leave no tender word unsaid,
Love while life shall last.
The mill will never turn again,
With water that has passed.
The other side of the coin
I am thankful....
For the taxes that I pay,
Because it means that I am employed.
For the mess to clean after a party,
Because it means that I have been surrounded by friends.
For a lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning and gutters that
need fixing, Because it means I have a home.
For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot,
Because it means I am capable of walking
And that I have been blessed with transportation.
For the lady behind me in church who sings off key,
Because it means that I can hear.
For the pile of laundry and ironing,
Because it means I have clothes to wear.
For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day,
Because it means I have been capable of working hard.
For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours,
Because it means that I am alive.
And finally.......
For all the e-mails I receive each day,
Because it means I have friends who think of me in places far away
and near
Send this to someone you care about.
For the taxes that I pay,
Because it means that I am employed.
For the mess to clean after a party,
Because it means that I have been surrounded by friends.
For a lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning and gutters that
need fixing, Because it means I have a home.
For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot,
Because it means I am capable of walking
And that I have been blessed with transportation.
For the lady behind me in church who sings off key,
Because it means that I can hear.
For the pile of laundry and ironing,
Because it means I have clothes to wear.
For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day,
Because it means I have been capable of working hard.
For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours,
Because it means that I am alive.
And finally.......
For all the e-mails I receive each day,
Because it means I have friends who think of me in places far away
and near
Send this to someone you care about.
DREAMBUILDING
I vividly remember my introduction to network marketing back in 1999. At that time I was an insurance agent. Network marketing was like nothing I had ever seen before. I stayed up all night drawing circles and dreaming about the power of residual income.
The power in this industry is dreambuilding. People's dreams have been stiffled by the corporate world for years. Network marketing is a great vehicle to free up those dreams. This is where you, their sponsor, comes in. You must become a dreambuilder.
While in the sponsoring/recruiting process, you should ask questions about their dreams. Here's a great activity you can try yourself first and then use with your prospects and new distributors. Ask yourself, "if I had unlimited money and time, what would I do and buy? Where would I go and who would I see?" Ask your prospect or new distributor to take 10 minutes and write down everything they would do, see, buy, or be.
Once they are emotionally involved in the dream, then it is your job to show them exactly what they need to do in order to make those dreams come true. Lay out a daily plan that will within a certain number of years enable them to have the residual income necessary to achieve their dreams and goals.
It's amazing at how powerful this is. If they have a strong dream, your distributors will stick it out through the tough times. So start building dreams and then watch yours come true too!
When You Care Enough To Share…
The power in this industry is dreambuilding. People's dreams have been stiffled by the corporate world for years. Network marketing is a great vehicle to free up those dreams. This is where you, their sponsor, comes in. You must become a dreambuilder.
While in the sponsoring/recruiting process, you should ask questions about their dreams. Here's a great activity you can try yourself first and then use with your prospects and new distributors. Ask yourself, "if I had unlimited money and time, what would I do and buy? Where would I go and who would I see?" Ask your prospect or new distributor to take 10 minutes and write down everything they would do, see, buy, or be.
Once they are emotionally involved in the dream, then it is your job to show them exactly what they need to do in order to make those dreams come true. Lay out a daily plan that will within a certain number of years enable them to have the residual income necessary to achieve their dreams and goals.
It's amazing at how powerful this is. If they have a strong dream, your distributors will stick it out through the tough times. So start building dreams and then watch yours come true too!
When You Care Enough To Share…
Getting a busy signal?
You are right . One of Robert Kiyosaki teaching is : The purpose of a business is to give you more freedom to work or not to work. Business is not equal to busy-ness.
Two natural gas company service personnel, a senior training supervisor and young trainee, were out checking meters in a suburban neighborhood. They parked their truck at the end of an alley and worked their way to the other end.
At the last house, a woman looking out her kitchen window watched the two men as they checked her gas meter. When they finished, the senior supervisor, proud of his physical condition, challenged his younger co-worker to a foot race back to their truck.
As they approached the truck, they realized that the woman from the last house they checked was huffing and puffing right behind them. They stopped and asked her what was wrong.
Gasping for breath, she replied, "When I saw two gas men running as hard as you two were, I figured I'd better run, too!"
In another way, we spend a great deal of time running, don't we? We are running to catch up at work. We are running to keep up at home. We speak of "running" errands. We "rush" off, we drive in the "fast" lane, we stop at the "Quick" mart, we buy "fast" food, we use the "express" lane, and we
"hurry" back so we can "race" through our meal. Too often our lives are lived in fast forward. No wonder we "run down"!
One tele-communications company executive went to see his doctor. She listened to her patient's heart, shook her head and said, "All I get is a busy signal."
Living fast does not usually mean we will have more free time. Rather, it often means we feel we have too much to do! An important part of reducing harmful stress is to simply slow down. Take a walk. Spend some time alone. Be still. Listen to your soul.
Surprisingly, you may find you have MORE energy left for the important work.
In time, you may wonder why you ever rushed at all!
Two natural gas company service personnel, a senior training supervisor and young trainee, were out checking meters in a suburban neighborhood. They parked their truck at the end of an alley and worked their way to the other end.
At the last house, a woman looking out her kitchen window watched the two men as they checked her gas meter. When they finished, the senior supervisor, proud of his physical condition, challenged his younger co-worker to a foot race back to their truck.
As they approached the truck, they realized that the woman from the last house they checked was huffing and puffing right behind them. They stopped and asked her what was wrong.
Gasping for breath, she replied, "When I saw two gas men running as hard as you two were, I figured I'd better run, too!"
In another way, we spend a great deal of time running, don't we? We are running to catch up at work. We are running to keep up at home. We speak of "running" errands. We "rush" off, we drive in the "fast" lane, we stop at the "Quick" mart, we buy "fast" food, we use the "express" lane, and we
"hurry" back so we can "race" through our meal. Too often our lives are lived in fast forward. No wonder we "run down"!
One tele-communications company executive went to see his doctor. She listened to her patient's heart, shook her head and said, "All I get is a busy signal."
Living fast does not usually mean we will have more free time. Rather, it often means we feel we have too much to do! An important part of reducing harmful stress is to simply slow down. Take a walk. Spend some time alone. Be still. Listen to your soul.
Surprisingly, you may find you have MORE energy left for the important work.
In time, you may wonder why you ever rushed at all!
09 September 2007
Tips for Effective PowerPoint Presentations
Tips for Effective PowerPoint Presentations
Fonts
§ Select sans-serif fonts such as Arial or Helvetica. Avoid serif fonts such as Times New Roman or Palatino as they are sometimes more difficult to read.
§ Use no font size smaller than 24 point.
§ Clearly label each screen. Use a larger font (35-45 points) or different color for the title.
§ Use a single sans-serif font for most of the presentation. Use different colors, sizes and styles (bold, underline) for impact.
§ Avoid italicized fonts as they are difficult to read quickly.
§ No more than 6-8 words per line
§ For bullet points, use the 6 x 6 Rule. One thought per line with no more than 6 words per line and no more than 6 lines per slide
§ Use dark text on light background or light text on dark background. However, dark backgrounds sometimes make it difficult for some people to read the text.
§ Do not use all caps except for titles.
To test the font, stand back six feet from the monitor and see if you can read the slide.
Graphics and Design
§ Keep the background consistent and subtle.
§ Use only enough text when using charts or graphs to explain clearly label the graphic.
§ Keep the design clean and uncluttered. Leave empty space around the text and graphics
§ Use quality clipart and use it sparingly. The graphic should relate to and enhance the topic of the slide.
§ Try to use the same style graphics throughout the presentation (e.g. cartoon, photographs)
§ Limit the number of graphics on each slide.
§ Check all graphics on a projection screen before the actual presentation.
§ Avoid flashy graphics and noisy animation effects unless they relate directly to the slide.
§ Limit the number of transitions used. It is often better to use only one so the audience knows what to expect.
Color
§ Limit the number of colors on a single screen.
§ Bright colors make small objects and thin lines stand out. However, some vibrant colors are difficult to read when projected.
§ Use no more than four colors on one chart.
§ Check all colors on a projection screen before the actual presentation. They may project differently than what appears on the monitor.
General Presentation
§ Check the spelling and grammar.
§ Do not read the presentation. Practice the presentation so you can speak from bullet points. The text should be a cue for the presenter rather than a message for the viewer.
§ Give a brief overview at the start. Then present the information. Finally review important points.
§ It is often more effective to have bulleted points appear one at a time so the audience listens to the presenter rather than reading the screen.
§ Use a wireless mouse or pick up the wired mouse so you can move around as you speak.
§ If sound effects are used, wait until the sound has finished to speak.
§ If the content is complex, print out the slides so the audience can take notes.
§ Do not turn your back on the audience. Try to position the monitor so you can speak from it.
Fonts
§ Select sans-serif fonts such as Arial or Helvetica. Avoid serif fonts such as Times New Roman or Palatino as they are sometimes more difficult to read.
§ Use no font size smaller than 24 point.
§ Clearly label each screen. Use a larger font (35-45 points) or different color for the title.
§ Use a single sans-serif font for most of the presentation. Use different colors, sizes and styles (bold, underline) for impact.
§ Avoid italicized fonts as they are difficult to read quickly.
§ No more than 6-8 words per line
§ For bullet points, use the 6 x 6 Rule. One thought per line with no more than 6 words per line and no more than 6 lines per slide
§ Use dark text on light background or light text on dark background. However, dark backgrounds sometimes make it difficult for some people to read the text.
§ Do not use all caps except for titles.
To test the font, stand back six feet from the monitor and see if you can read the slide.
Graphics and Design
§ Keep the background consistent and subtle.
§ Use only enough text when using charts or graphs to explain clearly label the graphic.
§ Keep the design clean and uncluttered. Leave empty space around the text and graphics
§ Use quality clipart and use it sparingly. The graphic should relate to and enhance the topic of the slide.
§ Try to use the same style graphics throughout the presentation (e.g. cartoon, photographs)
§ Limit the number of graphics on each slide.
§ Check all graphics on a projection screen before the actual presentation.
§ Avoid flashy graphics and noisy animation effects unless they relate directly to the slide.
§ Limit the number of transitions used. It is often better to use only one so the audience knows what to expect.
Color
§ Limit the number of colors on a single screen.
§ Bright colors make small objects and thin lines stand out. However, some vibrant colors are difficult to read when projected.
§ Use no more than four colors on one chart.
§ Check all colors on a projection screen before the actual presentation. They may project differently than what appears on the monitor.
General Presentation
§ Check the spelling and grammar.
§ Do not read the presentation. Practice the presentation so you can speak from bullet points. The text should be a cue for the presenter rather than a message for the viewer.
§ Give a brief overview at the start. Then present the information. Finally review important points.
§ It is often more effective to have bulleted points appear one at a time so the audience listens to the presenter rather than reading the screen.
§ Use a wireless mouse or pick up the wired mouse so you can move around as you speak.
§ If sound effects are used, wait until the sound has finished to speak.
§ If the content is complex, print out the slides so the audience can take notes.
§ Do not turn your back on the audience. Try to position the monitor so you can speak from it.
Tired of working?
Tired of working?
This year is made up of 365 days each having 24 hours, 12 of which are night time hours which add up to a total of 182 days.
This leaves us with 183 days to work minus 52 Sundays which leaves us 131 days to work minus another 52 Saturdays which leaves us 79 days to work.
3 hours each day are set aside for eating and 1 hour for bathing/going to toilet which adds up to 60 days, which leaves us with only 19 days for working.
We are entitled to 15 days for our vacation which means we have 4 days left for work minus 3 days we usually take off due to illness or other emergency, which leaves us with only ONE DAY to work, which happens to be LABOUR DAY which is a holiday.
SO ARE YOU TIRED?
Cheers…have a good work day!
This year is made up of 365 days each having 24 hours, 12 of which are night time hours which add up to a total of 182 days.
This leaves us with 183 days to work minus 52 Sundays which leaves us 131 days to work minus another 52 Saturdays which leaves us 79 days to work.
3 hours each day are set aside for eating and 1 hour for bathing/going to toilet which adds up to 60 days, which leaves us with only 19 days for working.
We are entitled to 15 days for our vacation which means we have 4 days left for work minus 3 days we usually take off due to illness or other emergency, which leaves us with only ONE DAY to work, which happens to be LABOUR DAY which is a holiday.
SO ARE YOU TIRED?
Cheers…have a good work day!
Debt vs investment: pay now or pay later?
So you have some spare cash. Should you invest it or pay off debts? That depends on how you like risk
AS a financial planner, I have often been asked if one should use spare cash to redeem a loan or invest the money instead. Or if one should cash out of an investment to pay off debt.
The first rule of financial planning is to save at least three to six months of your income as an emergency fund. Any money left over can be used to pay off debt or invested. Remember that monthly debt repayment eats into your financial plan but investments will increase your net worth.
Making early payments to pay off your loan exposes you to relatively few risks as once the loan is paid, it stays paid. But there is another type of risk associated with early repayment and that is opportunity risk. The opportunity risk is the possibility that a better opportunity might present itself and you would be unable to take advantage of it since you gave the bank your extra cash to redeem the loan. And when you invest your money, you generally expose yourself to market risk and other risks that could make you lose money.
Paying debt early may not be wise if the loan is for an investment property that is rented out. The interest paid on home mortgages is tax deductible against the rental income. This will effectively reduce taxable income derived from rental income. However, this strategy does not apply to owner occupied property or any other loans. In such cases, it will make sense to reduce your loan.
Bank overdrafts and credit card debt must be paid as soon as possible. Using credits cards has no ill consequences when you pay them off monthly. The high interest charge on installment debt, however, turns potential savings into healthy profits for the lending institution. In contrast, this money could be growing in your investment account instead. Few people realise how long it takes to pay off installment debt once the bills start arriving. Charging is all too easy.
So, say you have a debt as well as cash for investment. If you maintain the debt (instead of paying it off), the cost to you is the interest rate on the loan minus whatever you make from the investment. Basically, you are trying to determine whether you can achieve a return on your investment that is far superior than the interest rate on the debt.
For instance, if the interest rate on your mortgage is 5 per cent, and you can find an investment that gives you 9 per cent, you should certainly invest your money. In reality the analysis is never this simple, because you need to know the return on investment which is difficult to ascertain.
Although it is impossible to predict with certainty what an investment will return, we can still be sure of two certainties, ie, the likely return and the level of risk. Since paying down any debt entails much lower risk than making an investment, you need to get a higher level of return to offset the additional risk taken on the investment. In other words, the investment has to pay you a higher return to assume the risk in order to justify the investment.
So it would be foolish to turn down a risk-free return of say, 4 per cent, to try to get a return of 5 per cent from another investment where the returns are not guaranteed. (This concept is similar to our CPF Special Account where the 4 per cent interest is risk-free and the returns on other investment are not guaranteed, at best only the capital is guaranteed.)
It is a matter of personal preference how big the difference between the return on the investment and the risk-free return should be. Technically, this is called the risk premium.
By now we are convinced that paying the debt is a low-risk alternative. But when it comes to selecting investments that will potentially yield more than paying down a debt, you have many options. The option that you choose should be the one that maximises your return subject to a given level of risk.
In Singapore, investment options are plenty. So if you have a mortgage interest rate of 5 per cent, where would you want to invest for higher returns? Obviously, you will choose an investment that provides a return higher than your mortgage rate. In this case, unit trusts and stock investment seem to stand out. Historically, these investment have earned about 7-10 per cent or more over long periods of time, but losing money is a serious possibility over a shorter period, say, less than three years.
The question of whether you should put all your extra cash into the market versus paying off your mortgage will depend on your risk appetite. For me, the answer is somewhere in between. Everyone agrees that it is good to be debt free, but paying down your debts to the point where you have no available cash could really hurt you if you need cash for emergencies.
And, of course, it would be nice to have lots of long-term investments, but don't neglect the guaranteed rate of return that is assured by paying down debt versus the completely un-guaranteed rate of return found in the markets. If having a debt makes you nervous, then pay off the loan. If you don't worry about debt, then keep the mortgage and keep your money invested. If you can understand the ups and downs of the market, then invest in stocks or unit trusts. Lastly, if the stock market makes you nervous, pull out some or all of your equity investments.
In life, all we can do is "guess-timate" and hope we did the right thing. You'll have to make your call today and see what it garners tomorrow. In short, each of us needs to find the right balance between risk and reward.
AS a financial planner, I have often been asked if one should use spare cash to redeem a loan or invest the money instead. Or if one should cash out of an investment to pay off debt.
The first rule of financial planning is to save at least three to six months of your income as an emergency fund. Any money left over can be used to pay off debt or invested. Remember that monthly debt repayment eats into your financial plan but investments will increase your net worth.
Making early payments to pay off your loan exposes you to relatively few risks as once the loan is paid, it stays paid. But there is another type of risk associated with early repayment and that is opportunity risk. The opportunity risk is the possibility that a better opportunity might present itself and you would be unable to take advantage of it since you gave the bank your extra cash to redeem the loan. And when you invest your money, you generally expose yourself to market risk and other risks that could make you lose money.
Paying debt early may not be wise if the loan is for an investment property that is rented out. The interest paid on home mortgages is tax deductible against the rental income. This will effectively reduce taxable income derived from rental income. However, this strategy does not apply to owner occupied property or any other loans. In such cases, it will make sense to reduce your loan.
Bank overdrafts and credit card debt must be paid as soon as possible. Using credits cards has no ill consequences when you pay them off monthly. The high interest charge on installment debt, however, turns potential savings into healthy profits for the lending institution. In contrast, this money could be growing in your investment account instead. Few people realise how long it takes to pay off installment debt once the bills start arriving. Charging is all too easy.
So, say you have a debt as well as cash for investment. If you maintain the debt (instead of paying it off), the cost to you is the interest rate on the loan minus whatever you make from the investment. Basically, you are trying to determine whether you can achieve a return on your investment that is far superior than the interest rate on the debt.
For instance, if the interest rate on your mortgage is 5 per cent, and you can find an investment that gives you 9 per cent, you should certainly invest your money. In reality the analysis is never this simple, because you need to know the return on investment which is difficult to ascertain.
Although it is impossible to predict with certainty what an investment will return, we can still be sure of two certainties, ie, the likely return and the level of risk. Since paying down any debt entails much lower risk than making an investment, you need to get a higher level of return to offset the additional risk taken on the investment. In other words, the investment has to pay you a higher return to assume the risk in order to justify the investment.
So it would be foolish to turn down a risk-free return of say, 4 per cent, to try to get a return of 5 per cent from another investment where the returns are not guaranteed. (This concept is similar to our CPF Special Account where the 4 per cent interest is risk-free and the returns on other investment are not guaranteed, at best only the capital is guaranteed.)
It is a matter of personal preference how big the difference between the return on the investment and the risk-free return should be. Technically, this is called the risk premium.
By now we are convinced that paying the debt is a low-risk alternative. But when it comes to selecting investments that will potentially yield more than paying down a debt, you have many options. The option that you choose should be the one that maximises your return subject to a given level of risk.
In Singapore, investment options are plenty. So if you have a mortgage interest rate of 5 per cent, where would you want to invest for higher returns? Obviously, you will choose an investment that provides a return higher than your mortgage rate. In this case, unit trusts and stock investment seem to stand out. Historically, these investment have earned about 7-10 per cent or more over long periods of time, but losing money is a serious possibility over a shorter period, say, less than three years.
The question of whether you should put all your extra cash into the market versus paying off your mortgage will depend on your risk appetite. For me, the answer is somewhere in between. Everyone agrees that it is good to be debt free, but paying down your debts to the point where you have no available cash could really hurt you if you need cash for emergencies.
And, of course, it would be nice to have lots of long-term investments, but don't neglect the guaranteed rate of return that is assured by paying down debt versus the completely un-guaranteed rate of return found in the markets. If having a debt makes you nervous, then pay off the loan. If you don't worry about debt, then keep the mortgage and keep your money invested. If you can understand the ups and downs of the market, then invest in stocks or unit trusts. Lastly, if the stock market makes you nervous, pull out some or all of your equity investments.
In life, all we can do is "guess-timate" and hope we did the right thing. You'll have to make your call today and see what it garners tomorrow. In short, each of us needs to find the right balance between risk and reward.
Is packaging more important?
A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted. As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car.
Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name embossed in gold. Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, "With all your money you give me a Bible?" and stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible.
Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.
When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. His father had carefully underlined a verse,
Matt 7:11, "And if ye, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more shall your Heavenly father which is in heaven, give to those who ask Him?"
As he read those words, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words ...PAID IN FULL.
How many times do we miss God's blessings because they are not packaged as we expected?
I trust you enjoyed this.
Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name embossed in gold. Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, "With all your money you give me a Bible?" and stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible.
Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.
When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. His father had carefully underlined a verse,
Matt 7:11, "And if ye, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more shall your Heavenly father which is in heaven, give to those who ask Him?"
As he read those words, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words ...PAID IN FULL.
How many times do we miss God's blessings because they are not packaged as we expected?
I trust you enjoyed this.
When to Quit
Today, I received a newsletter from Andrew Matthews. In case you are notfamiliar with who he is, Andrew is an international best selling author of 3books; "Being Happy", "Follow Your Hearts" and "Making Friends".In his newsletter, he talked about "When to quit?" and I thought, "How trueit is and how we can all relate to it in our quest for success."Andrew wrote, "Imagine you've started learning piano - and already you arethinking: 'This is too hard. Maybe I'll learn the guitar...' Or imagineyou've begun selling real estate. And you can't believe how many dealscollapse!" You ask yourself, "Is it time to quit and look for somethingeasier?" Well, according to him, "the best time to quit is AFTER YOU'VESUCCEEDED!" "Why? Because, success is more about persistence than talent.""Until you can play a dozen songs on your piano, you'll never know thethrill of making music. Until you have sold maybe twenty properties, you'llnever know if it's more fun being a successful agent than being a starvingagent."I couldn't agree more, our challenge is not that we do not have atarget/goal in mind, but very likely, the majority of us do not have thestrength of mind to hang in there until the goal or aim becomes a reality.
I am sure you would agree that in every quest for success, one must have theperseverance to hold on long enough to reach the goal. Wouldn't it be morefulfilling, with the reward in hand, only then you decide if you want tocarry on or quit.
Hang in There my Friends until you have Succeeded!!!
Cheers,
Bobby Wan
I am sure you would agree that in every quest for success, one must have theperseverance to hold on long enough to reach the goal. Wouldn't it be morefulfilling, with the reward in hand, only then you decide if you want tocarry on or quit.
Hang in There my Friends until you have Succeeded!!!
Cheers,
Bobby Wan
Motivational frogs..
The story about the tiny frogs…. Life’s lesson No. 1
There once was a bunch of tiny frogs,...
… who arranged a running competition.
The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.
A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the cmoontestants...
The race began...
Honestly:
No one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.
You heard statements such as:
"Oh, WAY too difficult!!
They will NEVER make it to the top."
or:
"Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!"
The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one...
... Except for those who in a fresh tempo were climbing higher and higher...
The crowd continued to yell
"It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!"
More tiny frogs got tired and gave up...
...But ONE continued higher and higher and higher...
This one wouldn’t give up!
At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who after a big effort was the only one who reached the top!
THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?
A contestant asked the tiny frog how the one who succeeded had found the strength to reach the goal?
It turned out...
That the winner was DEAF!!!!
The wisdom of this story is:
Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be
negative or pessimistic...
…cause they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you. The ones you have in your heart!
Always think of the power words have.
Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!
Therefore:
ALWAYS be…
POSITIVE!
And above all:
Be DEAF when people tell YOU that YOU can not fulfil YOUR dreams!
Always think:
I can do this!
Pass this message on to 5 “tiny frogs” you care about.
Give them some motivation!!!
There once was a bunch of tiny frogs,...
… who arranged a running competition.
The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.
A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the cmoontestants...
The race began...
Honestly:
No one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.
You heard statements such as:
"Oh, WAY too difficult!!
They will NEVER make it to the top."
or:
"Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!"
The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one...
... Except for those who in a fresh tempo were climbing higher and higher...
The crowd continued to yell
"It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!"
More tiny frogs got tired and gave up...
...But ONE continued higher and higher and higher...
This one wouldn’t give up!
At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who after a big effort was the only one who reached the top!
THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?
A contestant asked the tiny frog how the one who succeeded had found the strength to reach the goal?
It turned out...
That the winner was DEAF!!!!
The wisdom of this story is:
Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be
negative or pessimistic...
…cause they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you. The ones you have in your heart!
Always think of the power words have.
Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!
Therefore:
ALWAYS be…
POSITIVE!
And above all:
Be DEAF when people tell YOU that YOU can not fulfil YOUR dreams!
Always think:
I can do this!
Pass this message on to 5 “tiny frogs” you care about.
Give them some motivation!!!
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