Most of us wait to find out who we are from impressions and opinions we get from other people. We base our own self-image on other people's views of us.
"Oh, do you really think I'm good at that?" we ask, when someone compliments us. If we're persuaded that they are being honest and have made a good case, we alter our self-image upward. It's great getting feedback from others, especially positive feedback. And we all need it to live and feel good.
But when it's all we've got, we're in danger of being far less than we could be, because our so-called SELF-image always depends on OTHERS. And all they see is what we're risking right now.
What they never see is what's inside of us, waiting to emerge. Because they can't see that, they will always underrate us. Your journey should be internal. Travel deeper and deeper inside to find out your own potential.
Your potential is your true identity - it only waits for self-motivation to come alive.
"For this is the journey that men and women make," said James A. Michener, "to find themselves. If they fail in this, it doesn't matter much else what they find." Let positive reinforcement and compliments be a mere seasoning to your life. But prepare your life's meal yourself.
Don't look outside to FIND OUT who you are. Rather, look inside and CREATE who you are.
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